Why do you support that lazy, sabotaging, negative, SOB?

Would you tolerate your husband laying on the couch all day and not applying any extra effort?

Would you tolerate your husband lining the kitchen table with chocolates because he doesn’t want you to succeed on your diet?


Would you tolerate your husband telling you, ‘yes, those pants make you look fat, and flabby and old?”

No, you wouldn’t. Or at least you don’t think you would, yet, this person we’re talking about isn’t actually your husband — I’m referring to your subconscious mind.

Did you know that your subconscious mind is;

  • Lazy and chooses the easiest way out

  • Sabotaging and will not support conscious decisions if it doesn’t believe they are achievable

  • Negative and embeds negative experiences

  • Powerful — actually 30,000 times more powerful than your conscious mind


While we have evolved as humans, our brains haven’t, but all is not lost, we can absolutely optimize your subconscious mind — much like our iPhone’s iOS.

This is a long process that takes work, diligence and patience - - but we can jumpstart it with a few key tricks for change.

TAKE BABY STEPS:  Do you have a big goal you want to achieve.  Those ambitions are important. How do you stay on track so you don’t give up or so your subconscious mind doesn’t sabotage you (because it can’t get it’s head around what you want)? Set small milestones on the way to the big goal.

    • Make a BIG DEAL when you accomplish that small goal.  Take at least one minute to feel the success so it can embed in your subconscious mind, which will:

      • Provide a new positive divet in your mind (remember we automatically hold onto all our negative ones)

      • Fire dopamine, the happiness drug, attaching you to the event and propels you to continue.

      • Prove to your subconscious mind that those goals are attainable, giving it less ammunition to sabotage you

RECOGNIZE AND ACKNOWLEDGE CONCERNS: You really want that promotion, you are consciously preparing for your interview and working on your 30-60-90 plan. Yet, in the back of your mind, you are worried about how you are going to balance the new job with your home life because with the promotion comes longer hours and extensive travel.

  • Acknowledge your worries, don’t push them down and ignore them. They don’t go away, the fester within your subconscious mind and grow bigger and bigger.

  • Make a promise to yourself. I promise, with my new promotion, I will set boundaries so that I will be home by 6:00 three nights a week when I don’t travel.  Making promises relieves your subconscious mind of its worries and keeps it from subconsciously sabotaging you when you least expect it!

Try these small steps towards getting big results on your way to your subconscious reset.

Marissa Bishop