What self care is... and isn't

Lately I’ve been hearing a lot about self care. I’m so excited by this because self care is so important in keeping us healthy, balanced and enjoying a well-lived life. 

At the same time, I feel like we need to be clear on what self care is and what it isn’t.  

Self care is...

  • Taking a mental health day to recharge or just rest

  • Getting enough sleep

  • Chilling out with a book or going to a movie with a friend

  • Enjoying a massage

  • Saying no

  • Cutting off toxic people

  • Setting boundaries

When it comes to self care it does not need to be a week off at the Canyon Ranch.  I mean, if it is fabulous, but it’s more important to understand what recharges you and making sure you do it every day.

Figure out what acts of self care work for you and then make them non-negotiable. Keep a variety of things in your back pocket so that you can enjoy self care on both the busy days and easy days (and who am I kidding—most of our days are busy days!)

So if you don’t have time to get an hour massage. Can you run to get a quick 10-minute back rub at the local nail salon? 

Or if you can’t fit in a yoga class. Can you takes 5 minutes to close your eyes and take a few deep breaths to center yourself? 

Now on the other hand there are lots of things people do in the name of self care and they are totally fooling themselves. 

Self care is not: 


  • Wine time!

  • Gossip time!

  • Zoning out in front of Netflix!

  • Scrolling Facebook!

  • Shopping because hey I deserve it!

  • Turning off the alarm and sleeping in and skipping my workout

  • Thinking oh, this is too hard—I’m going to just cut myself some slack

Yes, these things are fun. And yes, some mornings you really need the extra rest. But these are things we can enjoy in moderation. 

Hitting snooze over and over will not help you reach your goal of getting to the gym so that you can feel amazing and have energy so you can crush your to-do list.

Gossiping will make your soul feel like you just ate an entire bag of Doritos. Shopping to fill the void equals more stuff you don’t need. You get the idea.

So we’d love to know. What kinds of self care do you love to do? Respond in the comments or reply to this email.

Need help figuring out what self care could look like for you? Reach out to us! Click here to get Mimi or Jackie. We’ve got you! 

To your magnificence! 
XO Jackie + Mimi

Marissa Bishop