Why is change is so damn hard

It’s not your imagination, change is hard and making progress toward your goals can feel like one step forward and two steps back.

  • If you’re on a diet, you blame the ice cream in your freezer.

  • If you are trying to stick to your budget, you blame the J. Crew promotion delivered to your in box.

  • If you wanted to leave the office at 6pm but are still at your desk at 7pm, you blame your boss.

But you should really be blaming your brain.

You see the difference between what you do in your day-in and day-out and the changes you want to make—even if they are for your greater good—send a red flag to your brain that change is a happening. And your brain does not like change.

Cognitive Dissonance is "the state of having inconsistent thoughts, beliefs, or attitudes, especially as relating to behavioral decisions and attitude change” is what’s going on here.

Simply put it can make you feel like crap and stop any change from happening before it’s even started.

Your brain's job is to keep you safe and comfortable with the old and familiar, even if it doesn’t serve us. However, change forces us out of our comfort zone. And this is where things start to break down.

Change can be hard, but it is not impossible!

Here are the 3 steps to creating sustainable change and getting to where you want go.

Step 1: Recognize that the feelings of discomfort are ok.

When those feelings of anxiety, fear, resistance, procrastination, drowsiness, etc. start to come up don’t drop everything and give up.

Instead become aware that your brain has been alerted that something new is going on. As a matter of fact, you can thank your brain for doing its job.

Step 2: Take tiny steps.

The roadmap from Point A to Point B is filled with lots of rest stops. Know where you are going, but plan to accomplish it one step at a time.

You want to loose 50 pounds? Yes, you can do it. Make loosing 5 pounds your first goal and celebrate when you get there.

Ready to level up and ask for that promotion? Awesome! Take the first step by making a list of the skills you need for that next level.

Step 3: Get comfortable with being uncomfortable.

Ah yes, my friend this is the hardest part. It’s also where the magic starts to happen.

Once you use your conscious mind to continue to move forward your brain will start to buy in to the fact that this change is happening.

And as you continue to consciously repeat the new behavior, your brain gets on board.

In fact, your while your brain doesn’t like change, it loves accomplishment. So once it gets the memo that you’ve accomplished something? Bravo! Let the dopamine flow!

So now that you know that you certainly do have the power to change where will you start? Let us know in the comments.





Marissa Bishop